Addressing the Earl Of Gloria and His Family

by Cassie Ingaben

While I am the first to recognize that the Eroica canon is not really concerned with the reality of British peerage, my own approach to fandom is to imagine a complete, coherent context/universe for my characters, the details of which I draw from actual reality when possible or feasible, just because reality is deeper and richer than what my lazy and limited imagination can come up with. This means for example that when I write a story in this fandom I try to stick to common linguistic conventions, such as the correct way of addressing a peer of the British realm. This to me contribute to the feel of being immersed in a richly layered and believeable universe, and thus being absorbed into the story.
It is for this reason that I have created the following table, which is directly inspired by this detailed and accurate site. As the page itself says, "This set of web pages attempts to explain the British peerage in coherent English for both the uninitiated and the Anglophile." The table itself is adapted from the one here.
Of course any errors and imprecisions are mine only, and I will be grateful if they are pointed out to me at cassieingaben at yahoo dot co dot uk.


Person

announced formally or addressed on formal corres- pondence as

salutation on formal corres- pondence

announced informally or addressed on social corres- pondence as

salutation on social correspondence

addressed in speech as

referred to in speech as

signature on social corres- pondence

Earl

The Right Honble. The Earl of Gloria

"My Lord,"

The Earl of Gloria

"Dear Lord Gloria," (or, more familiarly, "Dear Gloria,")

"Lord Gloria" the first time in conversation, followed by "my lord" (or, more familiarly, "Gloria").

(The) Lord Gloria (or, more familiarly, "Gloria").

Gloria

Earl's wife

The Right Honble. The Countess of Gloria

"Madam,"

The Right Honble. The Countess of Gloria

"Dear Lady Gloria,"

"Lady Gloria" the first time in conversation, followed by "my lady."

(The) Lady Gloria (or, more familiarly, "Helen Gloria").

Helen Gloria

Earl's mother

The Most Honble. The Dowager Countess of Gloria, or The Most Honble. Helen, The Countess of Gloria

"Madam,"

The Dowager Countess of Gloria; or Helen, The Countess of Gloria; or (archaic) Countess Dowager Gloria

"Dear Lady Gloria,"

"Lady Gloria" the first time in conversation, followed by "my lady."

The Dowager Lady Gloria; or Helen, Lady Gloria; or (archaic) Countess Dowager Gloria (or, more familiarly, "Helen Gloria").

Helen Gloria

Earl's eldest son

The Right Honble. The Viscount Kelso

 

"My Lord,"

The Viscount Kelso

"Dear Lord Kelso," (or, more familiarly, "Dear Kelso,")

"Lord Kelso " the first time in conversation, followed by "my lord" (or, more familiarly, " Kelso ").

(The) Lord Kelso (or, more familiarly, "Kelso").

Kelso

Earl's daughter

The Lady Margaret Red

"My Lady," or "Madam,"

The Lady Margaret Red

"Dear Lady Margaret Red," (or, more familiarly, "Dear Lady Margaret,")

Lady Margaret (or Margaret, if addressed by a very close friend or relative)

(The) Lady Margaret (Red)

Margaret Red

Notes to the table:
Dorian's title is The Earl of Gloria, and his family name is Red. I have made up names for Dorian's mother and sisters, as we do not know them from canon. We also do not know whether Dorian has a secondary title, so I have made one up as well. This is because, as the original table explains:

Eldest sons (heirs) of earls, marquesses, and dukes are allowed to adopt their father's next-highest title as a courtesy, which they use in every way as if it were a "real" peerage. If there is no courtesy title available, the eldest son of a duke, marquess, or earl takes the family name as a courtesy title.  

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